March is always a busy month for me, and this year is no exception. I have been busy with appointments and working on a mountain of paperwork as one contract ends (and involves a quarterly report and an annual one!) and two more begin.
I contribute a short stress busting tip on the Neworld Tuesday shows. I was the guest on the Neworld No Cost Thursday show last week and presented 10 Stress Busting Tips in more detail. Continuing in the managing stress theme, I am also working on my ebook, Stress Less, which I hope to have available soon.
And I can’t forget to mention “Path to Self-Acceptance”, the weekly email program to encourage and support you in loving and nurturing yourself, which started in March. If you are interested in checking that out, just click here.
In the middle of all this, I ended up with a computer virus, and could not use my computer for a couple of days last week. Thank goodness for my notebook! I was unable to access my documents, but was able to keep up with emails and some other important stuff. Lesson learned – I have purchased an external hard drive, so my important documents will be available anytime, anywhere! Funny how my presentation training taught me to be prepared for any possibility while giving presentations, but it never occurred to me to have a back-up drive for my everyday work!
And, oh, yes, I also finally created my Facebook page for Paths To Change. If you haven’t “liked” it yet, I would appreciate it if you could take the time to do that, and invite your friends, too! I will be sharing quotes along with tips to help you deal with your everyday ups and downs, and welcome any questions and ideas you might have as well.
It seems that just yesterday it was the beginning of the new year, and we are already heading into spring and the second quarter of the year. It has been a productive one so far for me, and I am looking forward to sharing information and ideas with you on your path to making positive changes in your life.
This might be a good time to talk about being able to say “no”. Sometimes we value other people’s time more than our own, and find ourselves saying “yes” to doing something when what we really wanted to say was “no”. Other reasons for not being able to say “no”, include being afraid we won’t be liked, not wanting to feel pressured or guilty if we say no, not wanting to let someone else down, the other person might think we’re selfish – you get the idea!
Everyone has the right to say “no”. So, how can you say no in a way that is respectful of the person asking and helps you not to feel guilty or selfish?
* If you really want to but are legitimately busy, say so. If they can’t wait, they can always ask someone else.
* If you aren’t available, or interested, offer to give them the name of someone who might be able to help.
* If it is something you really hate to do, you can refuse, and then offer to help with something that you enjoy.
* Say that you really don’t have the time to add any new projects right now – your schedule is as full as you can want it to be.
* Block time for yourself in your schedule, and be able to say that I am committed to keeping that time for myself.
* Say you have another commitment. It may be a doctor’s appointment or a play date with your child or date night with your significant other. The point is, you are not available.
I hope those hints are helpful.
And, I wish all of you a very Happy Easter! And lots of Chocolate!!