3 Tips to a Healthy Relationship
With such a fast pace of life, career and job uncertainties, financial strain, and many other pressures, our relationships can take a back seat and for some of us, our relationship health comes under severe stress. This can lead to feelings of rejection, loneliness, and ultimately, resentment towards the person you’re in a relationship with.
Here are a few tips to keep your relationship strong, especially in stressful times:
1. Set Big Goals
Set big goals for yourself, as well as big goals together to ensure you grow as individuals and as a couple. In this day and age, it’s not uncommon for people to go through career changes in their 30′s, 40′s or 50′s. Some are starting a business which also has the potential to add strain to a relationship and vice versa when things aren’t going so well. When you don’t have anything big to move towards, your behavior can very easily become misdirected and you could possibly find yourself on the hamster wheel going nowhere in a hurry. Your goals should be so big that when you wake up in the morning, you’re excited to get a move on your day, as you will be one step closer to achieving what you want in your life. Make sure to also take an hour during the day just to think, create, relax or to do whatever it is that you do to unwind. Get an agenda to record your goals and schedule time for yourself every day.
2. Identify Your Values
Determine what’s important to you first and foremost, then find out what’s important to your lover for both of you to be happy and content in a relationship as well as in the bedroom. In other words, identify each other’s relationship and sex values, then honor them to the best of your ability while keeping in mind that similar values are the glue that keeps you together, while different values can create conflict when we unknowingly step on them with each other. Values are the things that are most important to you at the core of your being. Once established, a game plan can be created that ensures both of your values are being met. Ask your significant other the following question, “What’s important to you about your relationship?” Write down a list and put them in order with each other. Also inform each other what each value means to you. Respect to one person could have a different meaning another as we all have our own model of the world.
3. Set Boundaries
Learn how to set boundaries. If you have an annoying in-law that shows up at your house unannounced at inconvenient times, you lack boundaries. Boundaries bring peace and harmony into your lives. If you are in distress over trying to take a bit of alone time, constantly being accused of something, you lack boundaries. Boundaries are the things we stand up for and tend to call deal-breakers. Oftentimes and with new families, boundaries are often pushed up against and out of avoidance of confrontation, we remain silent and stew inside. Drama always persists where boundaries do not exist.
Everyone wants to enjoy romantic, loving, respectful relationships, however, they’re not always easy to create, especially when you’re stuck in emotional patterns from the past. The good news is you can nurture your mental health by becoming empowered. From a place of personal empowerment, achieving the above three tips becomes much easier and can really be fun.
Sometimes, we just need more internal resources and one of the most powerful and effective is Time Line Therapy. Time Line Therapy is a tool used to achieve emotional freedom from the past very quickly and easily without having to re-live the event or having to get into detail about it.
There are several seminars and presentations taught throughout the Greater Sudbury area each month. You can also schedule a Private Couples Empowerment Weekend to bring the honeymoon phase back into your relationship.
Re-claim the responsibility for creating joy in your life and use the 3 tips to a healthy relationship to strengthen the bond between you and enjoy a new-found understanding and connection between each other.
Joanna L. Cox actively engages individuals and couples in their pursuit to achieve success in their lives, increase their impact, influence, personal excellence and improve their confidence, creativity, and work/life balance.
A noted Clinical Hypnotherapist, Time Line Therapist, & Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic-Programming (NLP), Joanna is one of only a handful of professionals in Canada to hold ABH-ABNLP & TLTA board certifications at the Trainer level. Joanna has a private practice in the South end of Sudbury and also holds individual & couples empowerment weekends at resorts across Canada and the United States.